The biggest laugh of 2009

A few months ago I got out of work on a Friday night and headed to my friend Thurston's house. Scooby was already there along with a few others including our friend "D''. D has become kind of a mess lately with his drinking and this night was no different. As soon as I got there D wanted me to try on his fathers accordian. Back story, D never got along with his father and was never allowed to even touch his dads accordian, so he was overwhelmed with emotion when he inherited it.

I was tired and didn't want to put the accordian on or try to play it, but D in his wasted state kept insisting, so I put it on. Then he told me to pull on it, I tried lightly and it didn't budge. "Are you sure its not locked?" I asked. D slurrily replied, "no its not locked, pull harder". I tried and it still didn't budge. "Are you sure?" I asked again. "Yes pull harder" he slurred, "your not pulling hard enough". So I did and the dam thing popped into two pieces, so here I stand with 1/2 of the accordian in one hand and the other 1/2 in the other. We both stood there, our mouths hanging open, shocked at what just happened.

Scooby being mr. fixit took the accordian from me and sat down at the kitchen table to try and put it back together. At the table was a pizza box with a couple of pieces left on top, "D" scooped up the box and started folding it into 4th's, I mentioned to him that there was still pizza on the box and he slurred to me that nobodies going to want it now. Just then Thurston swooped into the room and snatched the pizza box from D and passed it over Scoobies head and threw it away.

Then I noticed that in the process Thurston had dropped some pizza sauce on the accordian as Scooby was finishing putting it back together. So we wiped up the pizza sauce off of it and Scooby stood up and started to play it. He got a couple of in and out strokes out of the accordian before it popped open again and some thing hit the floor. We all looked down and here sat a piece of pizza on the floor. Apparently when Thurston passed the pizza box over Scooby a piece fell out and right into the accordian with out anyone noticing. So here we all sit, mouths agape at the pizza now laying on the floor as we come to the realization of what just happened.


Everytime we think of this night we laugh our fuckin asses off....

Beware of Knights Inn, the worst hotel chain...

FYI if your ever traveling through Terra Haute, IN and need to stop for the night absolutely under no circumstances stay at the Knights Inn. Once a year we stop through here on our way back home from New Orleans but I usually get us a room at the Econolodge. This year I thought we could save some money and stop at the Knights Inn, I figured since they also have continental breakfast.

We got there and I got us a room for about $10 bucks cheaper then Econolodge. The room looked ok at first, the carpet needed vacuumed but we've stayed at a few dumps in our time and aren't that picky. It was extremely cold that night so we immediately turned on the heat and noticed that the low heat button was broken. We took off down the street to find some food and when we got back the room still wasn't warm. That is when we noticed that the light above the sink didn't work and the volume button was missing on the tv plus it didn't have a remote.

When stopping for the night during a road trip we usually sleep in separate beds so we can spread out. This time we decided to sleep together since it was so cold, so I went to take the blanket off the other bed and there wasn't one. It ended up with us huddled together fully clothed under one blanket and two bedspreads and we were still freezing. After a half hour enough was enough, we tried to call the office but the phone didn't work. So we packed up our shit and heading to the office for a refund only to find out they don't do refunds.

The night clerk are very apologetic and when we mentioned writing a letter to corporate, he encouraged us to do so. He ended up putting us in the room above the office. Again no remote for the tv and only one blanket plus I found tiny glass shards on the bedspread. The night clerk did find another remote and brought us another blanket. The room got a somewhat warmer then the last, probably because of the heated office below us. It still didn't get warm enough to turn it off of high, but we at least stayed warm under the covers.

The next morning the continental breakfast consisted of dry cereal with no milk, toast, coffee and a cheap box of chocolate covered donuts with only two left. Needless to say corporate will be hearing from us and we will never again stay at another Knights Inn.....

Ugh, I seriously considered ending this blog at the start of this year. I haven't been blogging much if you have noticed. Its hard blogging when you live in small suburbia. Fags are like little clucky hens gossiping about everything and everybody and blogging about personal aspects of my life just gives them fuel for the fire. I don't mind my friends reading, but gossipy accquaintences.... well, fucks with my head.

But anyway, after deleting the last couple of posts, I guess I'm going to hang out for a little while longer.

Scooby and I's trip to New Orleans over the Holiday was great, somewhat low key for NOLA but great just the same. We didn't drink as excessively as we have in the past, actually we've spent most of last year cutting back on our drinking. It was great to go on vacation and not have to worry and sometimes babysit a drunk bf. In fact I think I actually fell in love with him this Holiday season. I've always loved him, but this trip it got a bit stronger. Instead of being pissed off at him getting sloppy drunk, I enjoyed his slightly buzzed company.

Last night, we had a nice dinner and movie evening with the crush. A friend voiced his concern about it breaking Scooby and I up considering I'm kinda gaga over the crush, but I assured him that's not the case, especially since our NOLA trip. After all Scooby is the brains behind this operation, plus he's my soul mate, and with his health the way it is, well we are in it for the long haul. We're all just having fun, casual intimate relations. If it grows into more then great, but we are happy with how it is. I've always had issues with depression and low self esteem so having a guy in his early twenties interested in us has been a big boost. Something that I desperately needed.

Words to live by....

If you pass judgment on others,

it doesn't define them,

it defines yourself....

5 Golden rings (5 things I enjoy)

This meme is from Bigg,


1. My cats, especially Kiddo. If I leave for work with out him knowing, he runs through the house looking for me meowing. When I come home from work he sits on my chest and nuzzles my face. He loves to be carried around like a baby and most of the time if I wake up in the middle of the night he is snuggled by my side. I truly believe he would be devastated if something were to happen to me, he keeps me keeping on. His brother Clyde has his own distinct characteristics. He loves to be papoosed in the front of your shirt and carried around. He's very quiet but sometimes when he thinks he's alone he meow/sings. After I take a shower he will follow me into the bedroom and jump on the bed and I'll stand there and he will try to put his paws around me and nuzzle my chest with his face to rescent me, sometime he will lightly bite me also.


2. Home: Even though its alot of work I enjoy our home, it keeps me busy with laundry and making meals, baking cookies and treats and gardening in the yard in the summer. It keeps me grounded.


3. New Orleans, I enjoy the atmosphere, architecture, music, people who are drunker then myself, and its old world charm. It does have its crime element but I've said it several times, that I'd rather be murdered in the streets of New Orleans tomorrow then live the rest of my life in Michigan.


4. Friends: even though they can sometimes be a pain in the ass I love em. Getting together and doing simple things like helping decorate a christmas tree, getting drunk at the St. Pats parade, or just sitting around on a Sunday during the summer and bbq'ing and having a few cocktails.


5. I enjoy my partner Scooby even though things are tough with him not working he has many great qualities. He's fluent in electrical, plumbing and carpentry and is an asset to have around. Plus he's my best friend.

Update on the other house

Well the second roomate fell through. Don't know what happened, he's a friend of ours and was suppose to move in around Nov. 1 and we never heard from him and still haven't. Being the difficult person he is he probably lost his job, but who knows.

The one guy that does live there wanted to move in one of his friends but unfort. the guy is handicapped and the house is not excessable, plus bedrooms are on the second floor. So I have offered to sell the house to him and he is interested. We are just waiting to see if he can get financing. If this pans out we are thinking about flipping another HUD home down the street. This should be enough to pay off our house and possibly build a garage too. Wish us luck..

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

We are spending Thanksgiving at my sisters and "the crush" might even tag along. :)

Drama, Drama, Drama

If I hadn't mentioned, my friend and I have made up a few weeks ago after a month hiatus. Anyway he called and left a message Sunday morning, I was still in bed but could tell by his voice that something was not right. I got up a few minutes later, made coffee and called him back and he procedes to tell me about the disturbing phone call he received the night before.

back story: after my friend broke up with his bf, said ex rented a room at the other house I bought early this year. Ex is friends with another gay man named Vince and Vince is in a relationship with mentally unstable Gerald. Well Gerald thinks something is going on between Ex and Vince and called my friend Saturday night to tell him if I don't kick Ex out of the house that him and his nephew are going to burn down my rental house, and that they already cased the place out. nice....

So I took a little trip over to the local police dept. and reported the threat. Unfort. they can't really do anything until he acts on it, but the report has been made incase anything happens. I've heard stories about how Gerald beats Vince (who's in a wheelchair) and in his last tirade this weekend distroyed Vince's walker. Its all very fucked up and I don't understand why Vince doesn't file assault charges against him and get his ass thrown in jail.

Luckily I'm very well insured.

The crush

It was Mardi Gras weekend at the campground, my other half was shit faced drunk, falling off the picnic table before the parade even started. I finally got him in the tent to sleep it off and went to join the festivities. I sampled several of the cocktails and snacks and ended up at the foam party on the dance floor. I used to love to dance but when your bf of 13 yrs doesn't dance, well it kind of falls to the wayside. That night I dance my ass off, shirtless and slick with foam. I was laughing and having the best time, when it happened, this young handsome twink grabbed my nipple and tweaked it, a little to hard since they are very hypersensitive, then winked at me and continued on. He stuck in my head.

Cut to last month

I found him on Manhunt and he lives in the area, early twenties, vers, top.... He actually hit me up and we exchanged a few emails. I told him right up front my status expecting him to disappear, never to hear from him again, like most of the online guys do. I was wrong, he was cool with it. We had lunch, he told me that he had recently heard from the health dept that someone he had been with tested poz and he was waiting for his results. We went back to his place and had HOT protected safe sex. He's got a smokin hot tight little body and well... he's bigger then me. A few days later his results came back and it wasn't good. He's handling it extremely well, and we've gotten together a second time. This time I discovered how versatile he really is.

So anyway that is what his going on in my life. I have a crush and I really don't know what to do about it. Probably nothing, people come and go and if and when this ends I will be crushed that's why its called a crush. I'm having fun, he is giving me a well deserved boost to my ego and self esteem considering he's twenty yrs younger then me.

Luckily Scooby has cut back on his drinking drastically or else this would be a no brainer. We are still bickering about his lack of employment. I told him he either needs to apply for disability or go back to work full time. He wined that filling out the application for SSD would be so stressful and I told him, "Like the stress I've been dealing with for 12yrs wondering if we are going to financially make it on my paycheck alone, join the club." That shut him up and will hopefully get him to apply. otherwise I'm going to have to tell him that he has 3 choices, A. apply for SSD, B. go back to work, or C. move into the other house. I would never leave him high and dry, I do love him but not enough to financially support him for another 12 or more yrs.. I've got to start taking care of myself and find my own happiness.

Lets end on a lighter note: This guy was born in another state but him and his mom ended up in the town I'm from and I'm dying to ask how they ended up there. If he says his mom is from there I'm gonna shit, since we are about the same age I might know her. Yikes!!

More to come....

Halloween plans

We are going to The Rocky Horror Picture Show at 7pm then off to the bar for cocktails and the Halloween costume contest. I've never seen RHPS at the theatre so I'm a virgin, hahahahahahah Haven't been able to say that in like forever....

Anyway going as one of the guests/extras, black jacket/pants, bright colored shirt and sunglasses and of course party hat and noise maker. Will have my vampire contacts in so all I'll have to do is pour some fake blood around my mouth and throw in the fangs and I'll be a vampire at the bar.

I don't know where to start

Well we ended up renting rooms at the other house. 2 rented, 1 to go. One of my very good friends has been acting very crazy lately and ended his short term relationship with his new boyfriend. The guy is very nice and when crazy kicked him out on his birthday no less, he asked if he could rent a room at the other house. I, flat ass broke and needing money, said sure. Well when I informed my good friend that his new ex was going to rent from me he ended our 20 yr. friendship. I was stunned, but what can I do. Said good friend has been a major pill lately so the break is a well deserved one. I'm thinking that its his new hiv meds thats making him so crazy, but that is just a speculation.

A month ago we were doing our weekend thing, hitting the flea market and he told me, "When I break up with ______ you can be as mean as you want to too him." This left me speechless, first I was appalled, then hurt. I can't believe that he thinks that I'm that shallow that I will be mean to another human being just because he tells me I can. The only real reason I can figure that he broke up with him is because they were not sexually compatible. The guy didn't cheat, or lie, or disappear for days on end. I just don't get it...

So far he has been the perfect tenant. Turns down the heat when he leaves for work, is neat and tiddy, pays the rent. The other guy is our old roomate from a few years ago. He should be moving in by next week. 300 each per month should pay the utilities on the house this winter with a little extra to set aside for taxes and insurance on the place. God if I can get the last room rented we should be golden.

Still here

Still working on the other house, and getting pretty tired of it. Not sure what we are doing with it once its done. Wanted to do vacation rental but was told that it was highly unlikely that we would make that fly since we are not in a resort/ big city area. Which is true and I'm sure winter would be completely dead. Unfort. I'm out of money and we need to do something fast to get some income coming in before winter. All we are getting is negative input and I'm tire of hearing that shit.....

If anyone local reads this, we are not having a halloween party, because we don't have the time/money or energy ect..

Hopefully I'll be back soon with some better news. Hoping to get house done by end of Oct. (fingers crossed). Wish us luck.....

Whats going on

We went camping last weekend for Campit's Mardi Gras theme weekend. It started torrential raining Friday night and didn't stop until 1pm on Saturday. Needless to say everything was a muddy mess. Scooby got trashed both Friday and Saturday and I ended up baby sitting him until he totally passed out. Saturday night when he came too we had it out and I made him choose alcohol or me. So we are on the wagon now. He at least we will save some money and get a lot more shit done around here.

We have decided to try to turn the other house into a vacation rental/ B&B. I really don't want to be a landlord but would love to be an innkeeper. So that's the plan. We are located right in the heart of town, walking distance to most events on the river and one of the historic areas that has lots of restaurants and bars. Also downtown has lots of little shops and one of the largest antique malls in the state. Since the house needs a little work here and there we are pricing it cheap at $50 a night with 2 night min. or $3oo for the week.

So anyway, wish us luck...

I spent this weekend cleaning the basement of the other house and ripping out some really crappy made shelves to make way for the new drain lines we are putting in. Dam pvc is expensive, spent over 500 bucks for all the new drain lines, but I guess it would be alot more if I had to pay someone else to install so we actually did save money.

We discovered today the the display screen on our camera is broken. It must of happened during our 4th of July party. I'm totally bummed, but like I've said before, I wasn't meant to have anything nice.

On an up note we are heading to Saugatuck camping this weekend. Its Campit's Mardi Gras theme weekend which is usually a blast. We are going to be there Thursday-Sunday. 30% chance of rain, wish us luck....

buzzcocks orgasm addict

Mika - Relax, Take It Easy (Official Music Video)

Relax its the weekend!

Meschiya Lake and The Little Big Horns

The Loose Marbles, with Meshiya Lake

My one wish, to see Meschiya Lake perform live in person before I die.

In debt up to my eyeballs

Our friend that was going to rent the house informed us yesterday that he would not be able to. Finances or lack of is the reason. So now I'm kind of stessed again. We have discussed making the place a rooming house and rent out rooms for 100 week/400 month including utilities. If all 3 bedrooms was rented that would be 1200 a month for us, which should pay the utilities and give us some extra $ to continue working on the place.

Summer taxes just came today and I'm going to owe $2200. on the place which adds to my stress since that would completely wipe me out. Not to mention I have taxes due on our house and my car insurance is going to be due about the same time. September is going to totally suck if things don't change soon. Yeehaa

Celebrity deaths

August 16, 1977
I think the first celebrity that I remember dying was Elvis Presley. I was 10 yrs old and my parents and I were visiting my brother and his family down in Livonia, MI. I was sleeping on the hide a bed in the family room and someone got up in the morning and was in the kitchen with the radio on when it was announced that Elvis had died.

June 25, 2009
Today I first heard about Michael Jackson's death on Facebook.

How times have changed. Anyway that makes three in a row, Ed McMahon, Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson. RIP you all...

In other news, a good friend of ours is going to rent our other house starting August 1. I'm extremely happy, I just hope we are done painting and fixing the place up in time.

We are now getting ready for 4th of July party mode. I can't believe that its little over a week away. Yikes!!

Been spending most of my time cleaning the new house and trying to get it ready to rent. Been repairing shit as well. Discovered that the house sags a bit in the middle due to someone taking out a basement supporting wall when they put the furnace in. fun fun Luckily I bought the insurance that includes preexisting conditions since there was no utilities on. Hopefully it will pay for some of the repairs, if not, guess its up to us. No worries though, its not our first time at the fair. lol

Good News, we are closing next week on the house and we don't have to drive across the state either to do it. I put in a garden on the empty lot of the new property a week ago. I've been mowing both our place and our future property and it takes about a tank and a half of gas to do it all. In the past I could get several mowings out of one tank doing our yard. Alot more work but its worth it. Not much else to report, working like a madman and tired most of the time because of it.

Hope everyone had a great Memorial weekend!!

Not much new to report. Still haven't closed on the other house, in fact we just found out that if don't want it to drag out another couple of months we are going to have to drive across the state for the closing. Apparently HUD only went through one Title and Abstract company, and its in Gaylord, way up north. The poor company has been bombarded with the entire states HUD homes and unless you drive to them its going to take awhile for them to get you our area. OIY We have been at least working on the outside of the house so when we do get it we will be ready to focus our complete attention to the inside. We also found a steel exterior door for the house at a flea market for $10. so that will save us about $160 on buying a new one.

In other news, Scooby is slowly feeling better. Happy Spring everyone!

Sound of Music | Central Station Antwerp (Belgium)

BULL FUCKIN SHIT

Scooby has been having problems with our local HIV/AIDS services. It started last year when his case worker at Family Independent Agency fucked up his paper work which ended up with him not getting health care for 2008. "BASIS" our HIV/AIDS services was in the process of being taken over by Sacred Heart, which I would guess is basically the Catholic Church. Our caseworker at BASIS never bothered to help get things figured out and Scooby just gave up.

This year our BASIS/Sacred Heart caseworker got promoted and pawned us off on a new guy. I'm familiar with the new guy because a close friend has him as a caseworker and have been warned that he's about worthless, doesn't return phone calls, ect.. So we've been trying to get a hold of him so we can get Scoobys HIV related medical bills paid, with Ryan White funds and he doesn't return our calls either. We finally did get a hold of him and he said he's waiting for a phone call. It's been months since we have done his/our applications, its shouldn't have taken this long and he shouldn't still be waiting for a phone call.

This weekend our close friend mentions to us that his caseworker fucked up his app. and now he's not going to get DAP this year. DAP= Drug Assistance Program and takes care of all medications for HIV/AIDS patients who need help, they even pay my co-pays since I'm low income. I found out today that I don't have DAP this year as well, since the cut off was April 1. I have never had a problem applying for DAP, the only thing I can figure is that our new caseworker never mailed our applications.

I just wish I new WTF was going on, and why nobody cares anymore.

Update: I got on the phone this morning with the DAP client services person and found out they never recieved our applications. Within a half hour our caseworker was calling us and reasuring us that he'd get things ironed out. Its seems that they fax'ed our applications and that it didn't actually go through, or at least that is what they are telling us now.....

Happy Zombie Jesus Day!

Plans to go to my sisters for dinner were thwarted when I woke up with pink eye today. The fun part is I have to work my full 8 hour shift tomorrow in order to get my Holiday pay for Friday. So I'll apologize ahead of time in case I contaminate anyone at work. I don't make the rules I just follow them....

Pic of the new house

Here is a pic of the house we are purchasing. The pic was taken by the bank last winter. Note the house in the distance to the right is the back of our house. Will try and take a current pic soon.

Today we noticed a truck and trailer parked at the house we are buying so we stopped in to see what was up. Apparently HUD had hired some guys to go in and clean the place up/out. This is including the dishwasher, siding that was taken off the front porch ceiling when it was repaired, a cupboard door that wasn't attached, two vinyl window sashes with broken glass ect.. We didn't care that they took the old mattresses and beds ect. but we could use the rest of the stuff. Luckily the cleaning guys were reasonable and left the stuff that could be fixed, saving us alot of money on having to replace the stuff. They weren't even informed that the house was sold. I can't believe that HUD would do this AFTER there is a contract to purchase the house. The contract did say "as is" condition...

WE GOT THE HOUSE!!!!

The real estate lady called me today to say we got the house! I can stress enough to everyone out there, THIS IS A BUYERS MARKET!! Bank/government owned houses are going as low as 11,000. Granted I'm getting ours for a little bit more than that.

This will add a 50ft wide by 100ft deep section to our backyard, plus another 50 X 100 ft lot with a four bedroom house and two car garage on it. Next to the empty lot is another empty lot that is owned part by the city and state which they are holding onto for worker access. I about peed my pants when I got the news. I go in tomorrow to do the paperwork and it will be ours in 60 days, in time for our annual 4th of July party.

Also, the cortazon shot Scooby got in his shoulder is doing a world of good as well.

EEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Scooby is slowly getting better. The Dr. today said it would take his shoulder a good couple of months to bounce back and also gave him a cortazone shot in it, since he can't afford physical therapy.

It other new: The house behind us went up for sale and we put a bit in on it today. We should find out by 5pm tomorrow if it was excepted. Wish us luck. If you don't remember the story, the family who lost it was horrible. A single grandmother and a bunch of unruly grandchildren the older ones bordering on thugs. Towards the end the older kids were throwing eggs across the fence splattering our deck and cars ect.. They would also hit golf ball against our fence when we tried to entertain outside. If this goes through we will fix the house and try to rent it out to some gays and take the extra 50X100 foot lot and expand our back yard with the intention of building a garage in the future. Like I said wish us luck...

Aimee Mullins: How my legs give me super powers

Again, not much new to report. Scooby spent Friday afternoon/evening at the emergency room again, this time for a sebaceous cyst. They ended up not being able to help him and because of the area its in might need to have it surgically removed. Saturday the pain was so bad he was vomiting all day/night. Luckily it popped that night and relieved some of the pain and pressure.
Other than that not much is new, just working and taking care of the bf.

Update: Scooby called the specialist Tuesday and it looks like he will not need surgery after all. YAY!!!

We spent 6 hours yesterday at the ER at St. Mary's Hospital. Scooby had been throwing up for 2-3 days and was pretty dehydrated. They did blood work, urine sample, x-ray's, and an ulrasound and found nothing. The blood work the Dr. did a week ago came back clean as well. He had another appt. at the Dr. today and they have referred him to physical therapy to see if they can get his left arm functioning again. They feel the problem with his arm is that he has favored it since the cellulitis and now the tendons/muscles ect. are sore from no use.

It turned out that cellulitis he was first dianosed with last month was a type of Staph infection. But no answers to why this is still going on. I'm tired......

Update: Scooby is feeling much better now that they put him on antibiotics again. Since the Dr. suggested physical therapy he has been exercising his left arm and it is getting better as well. He went to one therapy appt. but will probably not go back since he has no insurance.

Happy Mardi Gras!!!

Sorry I haven't much to say. Scooby has had a relapse. They did blood work on him Friday to see if they could find out why he has severe pain in his muscles and joints. He's been sleeping about 90% of the time and has been confined to the couch. Luckily this time he is still able to get up and get himself to the bathroom ect.. So basically life is just work, house work and taking care of him right now.

Update: Scooby just called me to let me know he can't get off the couch. So it looks like I'll be heading home early and probably renting a wheelchair again. This worries me alot, plus it sucks that I have to work. I really wish Johnny hadn't of died recently, he was a healthcare worker and a very dependable friend that I could have counted on....

Friday the 13th

Normally people think of Friday the 13th as an unlucky day. This Friday was just the opposite for me this year.
I went to the Habitat for Humanity resale store and found a iMac G3. I asked the store clerk if it worked. She told me that some lady dropped it off 15 minutes ago and said it works prefect. It also came with keyboard, mouse, and software. Price $20. I couldn't believe it! Money might be tight but I could pass up this super deal. I'm so hyped, I love my new iMac.

I also stopped in to my car insurance agent and was able to combine Scooby and I's car insurance and I'm saving big bucks. YAY

Friday the 13th was definitely a lucky day for me!

This weekend I actually spent a few minutes outside with out a coat. The temp was in the 40's and I swept alot of the slush and water off of the back deck. Alot of the snow melted and the dormant grass is visible almost everywhere. YAY!!!

I was told today that tomorrow is suppose to hit 50 Double YAY!!

In other happier news. Scooby bought a trumpet at a second hand/ flea market type place for 30 bucks a couple of weekends ago. I thought he would drive me crazy playing it, but he's not that bad. In fact he's getting pretty good playing "When the saints go marching in".

January

I've come to the conclusion that I hate January. My mom died January 12, 1996. Two years ago my father committed suicide January 18. And now our friend Wendy was murdered January 17.

Repose en Paix Wendy

Wendy Byrne was one of our favorite bartenders in the French Quarter. Her main place of work was at Aunt Tiki's on Decatur St., but she had also moonlighted at The Country Club, El Gato's Lair, and Startlight by the Park. We met her through our friend Darron, I think a year or two before Katrina. She was a lively spirit, a great story teller and described herself as a gay man trapped in a womans body.

A day or so after our introduction we ran into her at Voodoo at Congo Square. She came in and sat at the end of the bar and ordered a drink and we got to talking. She mentioned that she loved guys with hairy chests cuz she loved the feel of rubbing against them bare chested. I pulled up my shirt and showed my fur and said "like this", and Wendy immediately jumped off her barstool, pulled up her shirt exposing her bare breasts and ran to me shouting "Hairy chest, Hairy chest", I climbed off of my barstool and we rubbed our bare chests together until she got her fix. Being a gay man, I had never been that close to boobs in my life, Wendy was definitely a friend for life after that moment.

Sometimes we would go in and there would be a sign on the JagerMeister dispensor stating "No More for Wendy" put there by Wendy herself of course to keep her from "crossing over" while at work. This Christmas/New Year trip down there Wendy told us she had switched from Jager to Tequilla. Also this year Scooby had started ordering his shots of Jager by pronouncing it YAY GRRRR and Wendy then raised her arms above her head and said "YAY" then ducked down behind the bar and jumped up like a bear and said "GRRR".

She worked mornings/early afternoons on Decatur and once while we were out looking for lunch and not ready to drink, we tried to walk past the bar.......But Wendy saw us and yelled, "Hey!!!, where do you think your going walking past here with out stopping to say hello". We would stop in and she would whip up her special Voodoo doll bloody mary's with the okra body, green bean arms, olive hands and a cocktail onion head. And that would be the end of the day cuz we would sit and drink and visit till the end of her shift.

Our friend Darron called this morning to let us know that Wendy was shot and killed near the corner of Dauphine and Govenor Nichols in the French Quarter last night. The victim of a robbery gone horribly wrong.

I spent Sunday in a state of disbelief, Scooby cried on and off all day. Sunday night we bought some Jager and drank to Wendy. Today (monday) it has sunk in and after reading more about what happened I finally started to cry as well. It makes me sick that if the police had of done their job this could have been prevented.

We love you Wendy, I'm so sorry this happened, you will always be remembered and the French Quarter will not be the same with out you. XXXOOO

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Update: Teen turns himself in.

Update: 2 teens booked in FQ murder.

Update: More info. from Times-Picayune

We got back from New Orleans in one piece. Last Thursday Scooby came down with a cold or so we thought. By Sunday morning he couldn't get out of bed because of the severe pain in his right leg and ankel and left elbow. The areas were red and swollen and hot to the touch. Since he has no insurance he decided to wait till Monday and see if he could get in to his regular Dr.. He tried to get around Sunday with the crutches we have but it ended up being easier to use a desk chair with wheels to move him to the bathroom ect..

Monday I went to a local Pharmacy and rented a wheel chair to tranport him to the Dr.. The Doc thinks he has some kind of skin infection and put him on a couple of antibiotics. They seem to work since he has started to get around again and told me today that I could take the wheelchair back on Wednesday. Nothing like a health scare to start the New Year.

Oh and some words of wisdom, if your parnter becomes wheelchair bound they don't think its very funny to mention Baby Jane........

Happy New Year!

Greetings from New Orleans! We head back tomorrow and looking forward to getting home and spending some quality time with my kitties. This year has been uneventful down here in New Orleans. The gay crowds have been sufficiently smaller and the some of the bars are struggling a bit to stay afloat. Luckily Mardi Gras is coming up in a few months so that will help. The news reported that crime is up here but I don't see it. Then again I don't look like an easy target either and that helps.

The weather looks good for our trip home, so thats a good thing. Hope everyone had a good Christmas and a Happy New Year!

We have had two big ass snow storms the last couple of weeks. I'm so tired of shoveling/snowblowing and digging people out who are stuck. Normally we are wondering if we will have snow for Christmas, this year there's no question. We got it in mass quantities in fact someone told me we have had 33 inches of snow already.

Christmas day we leave for New Orleans. The weather is suppose to be good so the drive should be worry free. Fingers crossed.

Hope everyone has a great Holiday! See ya in 2009

There's Something Stuck Up In The Chimney

LOL, This is my new favorite Christmas song!

Serial killer....yes or no

I've been told my gaze is intense in this pic, but serial killer I think is a little exaggerated. Actually I'm starting to think of it as a compliment though. lol

This n that

Its been a great week folks. First off in the beginning of the week someone on gay.com told me "that people like me (being people with hiv+) should be casterated".......nice.

Then today on Manhunt I was told I look like a serial killer. And here I thought the pic I had on there looked good in a somewhat sexy way. Maybe thats why very few will talk to me. lol.....

I will be baking bread and making chocolate chip and snickerdoodle cookies, and pecan praline muffins for our friends as gifts from Christmas. Thats what working class poor people do instead buckling under the capitalistic pressures of buying material gifts. lol

Speaking of material gifts, I bought myself an old/vintage Kitchenaid mixer on Ebay. Dam is it nice and so much easier then using the hand mixer. Plus the kitchen lights don't blink like they did when I used my little hand mixer.

To cut back on expenses we have stopped eating out and I have started making more meals. Today I made my mothers beef stroganoff recipe and dam it was fantastic and it only took about 15-20 min..

Tomorrow our sugar daddy is coming to take us out to eat for Christmas and give us our Christmas gifts. YAY

Well gotta go, hope everyone has a good weekend!

Christmas Light Show - Amazing Grace Techno

I'm Gettin' Nuttin' For Christmas

Whats new.....

Well this is what is new. I've had a cold for over a week now. It started with a sinus infection, then downgraded to the sniffles. Now I have a sporatic cough that won't go away.

I've been going to the Dr. monthly for the last 3 months trying out antidepressants. I've tried two, the first one Zoloft was ok if I don't ever care to have sex again. The only good thing about it was I had no desire to drink alcohol. I don't remember the name of the second one but I got a rash from my knees to my neck so I quit taking that one but the rash continues. My Dr. doesn't think its related and seems to think the rash will run its course in 8 weeks. I seriously think I've had it for longer though. I gave up on trying any more antidepressants.

I've also been loosing the feeling in the tips of my fingers which is caused by long term use of the hiv med combivir. My right index finger is the worst to the point I started referring to it as my "dead finger". Its like its been shot full of novacaine, but it doesn't wear off.

On a better note: Michigan passed a law allowing medical use of marijauna for people with cancer, glacoma, hiv/aids ect.. So once I convince my Dr. (who's against it) to write me a note to the health dept. I will be able to grow 12 plants for myself in a locked area. Scooby will be able to grow 12 plants also. People who are caregivers can grow plants for up to 5 people.

My Dr. is kind of pissing me off. He's against the medical use of pot, but I know of two of his past patients that he's gotten hooked on prescription pills. One of them is now dead. I think I'm going to mention to him that I've been smoking on and off for 27 yrs. and I'm still alive unlike a certain past patient of his.

But anyway thats whats going on in my life, aren't you glad I shared.....lol

X-Ray Spex - Oh Bondage Up Yours!

On warm summer days when I'm feeling like a cheeky monkey I blare this song in my car with the windows down while driving around my conservative hometown's downtown area and assault the yuppies during their alfresco lunch.

Violent Femmes - Blister In The Sun

OMG I heard this on the radio today and danced so hard I fell down...

Possible AIDS cure found

I just read this article online, thought I'd share....

Kitten and his box.

Elation, then reality

I was practically glued to the election results Tuesday night, more than any other presidential election in my time. Granted I was at work and had to take breaks to actually get my work done. Then I turned the TV back on and McCain was giving his seceeding speach. I couldn't believe it, I practically cried with joy and then kicked myself for not being in Chicago to see in person Obama's acceptance speach. It just made me think of MLK's "I have a dream" speach and JFK's "ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country" speach.

I immediately came out of my funk and finally had a feeling of hope for our country. A feeling I haven't had in 8 yrs.. A drive to take my meds more regularly so I could stay healthy. A drive to volunteer more. A drive to be the best I could be....

Then I heard on the radio this morning that Randy Gray a white supremacist of Midland marched back and forth on the corner of the busy roads of Eastman and Saginaw rds. in Midland Wednesday dressed in his KKK uniform holding an American flag. I almost cried hearing this. I work less than a block from this corner. The police were called but I guess couldn't do anything since he was just standing there. People driving by were screaming at him. What I don't understand is why this group isn't considered terrorist. Oh and he was also carrying a concealed hand gun, Michigan allows this as long as you have a permit, which he did.

The Paul Lynde Halloween Special with KISS

Eartha Kitt Witch Mix

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile. Nothing much going on. Trying to get the yard winterized, you know empty the water features, dump the potted flowers and pack away the pots, collect leaves ect.. Boring stuff. I tried to take a pic of my scooter today but my camera is fucked up.

Halloween is around the corner and I've been thinking about going as Amy Winehouse. I got the wig, but haven't planned much else, so it might be skag drag Amy. The thing is she wears such skimpy outfits and I'd have just too much hair to shave off, arms, legs, chest. It ain't gonna happen, the beard alone is going under alot of debate. I haven't seen my bare face in years.....

In other news...... My Dr. put me on antidepressants. Started out on Zoloft, that lasted less then a week. Sorry but if I can't keep an erection through sex how is that suppose to help depression. Now I'm on Welbutrin? I think. Have been on that for a couple of weeks and the only difference I see is the constant headache. Seriously I dont' think I'm that depressed to bother, so I think I'm just gonna quit the pill shit and do what my ancesters did, suck it up.

Anyway that is it for the shit.....

Goodbye Johnny

Scooby called me Thursday night to let me know that a close friend of ours John Haggerty died. If you read this at all he was the one I referred to as "JJ", the guy that broke his toes at our house back in July. Apparently he had some hereditary heart ailment.

Johnny lived and partied like there was no tomorrow. And when he partied, it was best for all concerned if we kept an eye on him. Once he danced on our friend Joe's old moe hair couch, note this was before he lost the weight when he was around 300 lbs., that poor couch has never been the same...

Another night, at Joe's again, we had all retired, but Johnny was still going at it and ended up in Joe's hot tub and passed out with a pack of cigarettes. The next morning he woke shriveled in a luke warm tobacco soup.

I think it was our 4th of July party last year that I found him passed out sitting upright on the couch with potato salad all down the front of him. He appartently passed out while in the process of eating. I cleaned him up and found the remainder of his plate on the floor.

One time him and Joe went to Flint for his lesbian sisters birthday party and almost got kicked out when he of course drank to much and got hungry and started to scoop food out with his bare hands from the buffet, totally grossing out the lesbians. That night someone told Joe that they would buy him drinks the rest of the night if he kept Johnny in check.

And last but not lest he loved to dress like Dawn Davenport (Divine in Female Trouble) for Halloween.

We'll miss you Johnny, life definitely won't be the same without you.

The Fog

This week I rode my scooter to work Tuesday and Thursday. Round trip its about 50 miles so I spared my car a 100 miles this week. Plus I used under 2 gal. of gas on the 2 trips. Man I wish it was the beginning of summer instead of the end.

Last night though Scooby called me around 11:15pm at work and told me it was getting pretty foggy at home. So I took off a 1/2 hour early from work and headed home. The fog really increased as I left the lighted streets of town and headed onto the main country road for home. I kind of got a little panicky when the visibility turned to shit, plus it didn't help that I had to keep wiping my face shield to see. The stress level was about the same as trying to drive home at night in the middle of a blizzard, other than having two wheels instead of 4. I did make it home in one piece though. I'll definitely be riding the shit out of it next year. Scooters ROCK!

I know I promised pics of it and will do this weekend and hopefully have then posted by Monday.

Have a great weekend!!

Project Runway

Ok, I admit it, I watch Project Runway. I'm convinced that the only reason they didn't get rid of Kenley tonight is because she's soooo fucking obnoxious and of course thats good TV. AARRGH!! That girl needs to be slapped.......repeatedly.

Dam almost a month has gone by since my last post...... Unfort. nothing much to report. The neighbors we were having problems with have now moved away and we have an abandon house behind us now. Other than that I turned 42 last week and that came and went pretty quietly. We did go out for a 2-3 pitchers of beer, but that was about it. Our Sugar daddy came up and gave us both police batons, unfort. Scooby was playing around with it while he was drunk and ended up breaking a front tooth. So I spent 200 bucks getting that fixed, or else he'd still be depressed face down on the couch.

Just another day for the working class poor...

Not much new to report. No more neighbor problems, they're still there but haven't had any issues in a few weeks. I haven't felt all that great the last couple of weeks, just tired, nauseous, and achey feeling.

One weird thing happened though. Several weeks ago one of the ladies at work was getting ready to go on vacation and every time I entered her cubicle I felt doom, like car accident doom. I was told Friday that her and her family was in a car accident two weeks ago. She is messed up to the point she won't be coming back until the beginning of next year. I feel bad for not saying anything before hand but I was afraid they would think I'm crazy.

This doesn't happen much. I remember the first time when I was a kid living out in Tucson, I kept having dreams of a big fire. Then a very popular bar in town "The Stray Cat" which was located in a historic building burned down.....

Neighbor update 2

The teenage boys behind us have graduated from throwing eggs to slamming golf balls into our back fence. I found two in our back yard so far, I'm sure its only time before they start breaking windows.

Neighbor update

What I forgot to mention in my last post was we found out that once the neighbor lady behind us divorced she could no longer make her mortgage payment and fell behind. Her church caught her up on payments and also gave her like 8,000 to replace the roof that was in bad shape. She took the money for the roof and her and her grandkids went on vacation down south. While down there she rekindled an old romance and planned on moving.

This was confirmed when our next door neighbor went back to complain about the liquor bottles being thrown into his back yard she told him that he didn't have to worry because they were moving in a few weeks...... that was in June and they are still here.

Her cool oldest gay grandson came back from down south and told us that he came back to help his grandma move but who only knew when that was gonna happen cuz she keeps putting things off. Well he stopped in last night and told Scooby that they were going back so she could enroll the kids in school down there and then come back and get the rest of their shit. So hopefully they will be gone within a month.

Everyone is encouraging me to find out who is the lender on the house and try to buy it. I don't think I can afford it but it is a nice dream. We could rent the house out to friends and take the extra lot and maybe build a garage and have an actual garden or something. We will see.....

OMG!!!

I just recieved my first compliment on my work from a dept. that I've cleaned for for the last 5-7 yrs.. I was so shocked that I didn't know whether to fall down, cry or shit my pants. Thank god the people who replace me when I'm on vacation suck. lol

In other news:

Our neighborhood is getting bad. A few years ago when the white people behind me moved in with their dozen black grandkids our next door neighbors threw a fit. I take pride for my non-racist attitude and told them don't worry about it that the oldest grandkid was gay and totally cool.
Well he moved out of state and grandma got a divorce. Earlier this summer the kids threw eggs over the back fence splattering our deck. I thought once was no big deal so I did nothing about it. Then the neighbors next door found empty liquor bottles in their back yard also. Note: the people behind us have a double lot so both of our houses ajoin their property. Come to find out the people down the street won't let their kids play with the kids behind us because they're the ones that did indeed steal the liquor. Now a few weeks ago our cars got egged and you could tell by the direction that they hit that it came from the kids behind us. We called the police this time and they just told us to take pictures, that they couldn't make it out, so we did.

This weekend three young teens (white, black and hispanic) entered the bar down the street asked for free soda. The female bartender told them no and that it was after 9pm that they had to leave. So they went out and broke the windows out of her van. When she went to leave they robbed her at knife point and threatened to beat her with a skate board.

I'm like WTF!!!! This latest story was told to me by the guy next door cuz he frequents the bar. Needless to say we no longer leave our windows open on the main floor when we go out, day or night. We've also started securing our property, fencing off the back yard so you can't get in without us letting you in. I'm also planning on putting up security lights around the back and side yards, the front it already very well lit. I also bought a sign that says:

No trespassing

violators

will be shot

survivors

will be shot again

I'm hoping this will help deter any problems.

Camping recap

Our camping trip was fun. We met up with old friends and made some interesting new ones. Scooby and I collected alot more beads for showing our you know what to several guys.

My best part was meeting Tommy. He's this sexy married/bi/transexual guy fresh out of the army. He came up to us when his group first got there and warned us that he'd probably be dressed like a woman during the weekend, we told him no problem, we didn't care. Late Saturday evening I drunkenly stubbled back to our campsite and saw a glow stick laying on the ground. I said, "Hey a glow stick!" and bent over to pick it up when everyone screamed at me,

"DON'T TOUCH IT! ITS BEEN UP TOMMY'S ASS!!

Unfortunatly I had already picked it up and immediatly gave it a toss back to Tommy's groups campsite. Then proceeded through out the nite to stick my hand under everyones nose and ask if it smelt like Tommy's ass. Apparently one of his friends stuck it up there. Scooby also spanked the hell out of Tommy with one of his leather slapper things that has a star cut out of it.

Sunday when we were all getting up and starting to pack Tommy came out of his tent, wig a tangled mess, stumbled over to a picnic table and sat down and immediatly said "Ouch". We all laughed and debated whether it was the glow stick or the paddling that he got the night before.

Another camping trip

Thursday we leave for Saugatuck to go camping at Campit. This weekend is their Mardi Gras weekend. Last year was a total blast with a weekend full of festivities. There is the Mr. and Miss Campit competition, best costume contest, Mardi Gras parade, and last but not least the Boubon St. party in the new trailer park area. Not to mention there should also be some action going on in the woods as well...... I hope.

In between all that I'll be hanging out in the pool.

Its all fun and games till someone snaps a toe off

Last Saturday started out productive with me working some overtime, but once I got home it turned into another weekend night of drunken daubachery. Several of our friends came over all with alcohol, beer, a half pint, couple of pints and a 5th of whisky. Our one friend JJ has been known to tie one on in the past and this night was no exception. We quickly went through the half pint, pints and a good portion of the fifth with JJ pouring shots as soon as the glasses were empty. Then he fell out into the yard. We checked to see if he was ok then let him lay there until he was ready to get up. Soon he stumbled onto the deck again and we propped him up on the bench inbetween two people so he wouldn't fall over. Then he tried to climb across the table, which we stopped.

We then noticed blood on the deck and tracked it back to JJ's foot. His one shoe was gone and what was left was a mangle of toes. I couldn't look, but someone kept saying, "The bones sticking out", "The bones sticking out". I definitely couldn't look. By that time JJ was totally incoherent aka shitfaced drunk. I said he needed to go to the hospital, but since everyone was too drunk to drive and JJ couldn't afford an ambulance ride, the soberest one wrapped up his foot and we layed him on the couch to sleep it off and it was decided that we would take him to the hospital in the morning.

The next morning I woke up to the front door being closed, so I hurriedly got dressed and went outside to see JJ sitting on the front porch steps barefooted. He turned to me and said, "What happened?" I then told him that he fell down. He then said he got up and unwrapped his foot only to find the horror of what layed underneath. "Did you see my foot?" I peeked over his shoulder to view for the first time and yes the toe next to the big toe was pushed to the side and yes the bone where the toe should be was sticking out. "I then almost cried and said,"Oh JJ, you need to go to the hospital." He then told me he had already called someone to pick him up, because his scooter had a dead battery. He then replied, "I think I need to stop drinking whisky, but believe it or not it doesn't hurt as bad as it looks".

It ended up he had 3 broken toes. All needed to be reset and it took three tries to set the bad one. He stopped by today to pick up his scooter and he apoligized for creating such drama. I told him I was just glad they were able to put him back together. We then discussed and joked about the necessity of wearing shoes when you party.

Attack of the 3ft. pencil

About a week and a half ago I was at work dusting offices. I was dusting the lady's office that is in charge of our health insurance and on top of a file cabinet she has a decorative 3 ft. pencil. I picked the dam thing up to dust under it and the klutz that I am fumbled it and the lead/graphite end stabbed me in the middle finger right on the edge where nail meets skin. At the time I didn't think much of it.

Then it never healed and became kinda swollen, its been very painful ever since and last week it started to ooz puss. Nice, I now. It then started to worry me so last week while I was at work I decided to go to Urgent Care, only to find out they were already closed. After some online research, I found that if not taken care of I might loose my finger so I went back to Urgent Care tonight. I was reluctant at first cuz I didn't want them to have to cut it open or anything since it was already very painful. It ended up they didn't have to do anything but perscribe me some antibiotics which ended up being free at the local Meijer's. YAY Oh and the Dr. and Nurse got a real big kick that it was a 3 ft. pencil.

Other than that I've been practicing my skills on my scooter and decided to try and do the test again in the next week or so once I master the course. I plan on spending Sunday at the course doing it over and over till I get it right. It helps that one of my friends used to be a motorcycle daredevil and he's helping me out.

Have a good weekend everyone!!

Congratulations you fail

Well I failed my motorcycle skills test this morning. Little did I know that I had to practically be a stunt rider to pass. I managed the short hair pin corner exercise and the stop with your front tire in a box exercise. But the weaving through the cones was impossible. First I thought that the cones were to close together. I had to take it crazy slow in order to manuver around them but I guess too slow since I put my foot on the ground twice, which is a big no no, and that was the one thing I actually practiced repeatedly before. Then I failed the stop on a dime exercise also, where you have to go between 12-20 mph and stop quickly. I stopped a little too quickly and almost wiped out. That was the end, I didn't get to do the swerve around the invisible car exercise.

I can do the test one more time, but why bother, since I don't think I can manage to zig zag around the fuckin cones. I'm just going to take the 2 day motorcycle learning program and be done with it. If I do that then I will get my license. Plus I want to learn to drive a motorcycle anyway so its a win win situation. The only thing is the class is booked like forever. But we were told if we just show up and they have "no shows" then we can take it with out reservations. Oh yeah Scooby is gonna take it also, hence the "we".

Frantically working

Well I found out that I can't get a fixed rate mortgage unless my house is finished and "not under contruction". So Scooby and I have been frantically trying to finish the house so I can refinance before my fixed rate ends at the end of the year. I worked all this morning before work installing siding. We need to get that done and the ceiling in the living room, plus alot of trim work through out. Needless to say I'm tired as shit, and the kicker is I'm going to have to start working OT for the next couple of Saturdays to get the carpets cleaned at work. OIY......

Rain and skeeters

The title best describes out camping trip. Thursday and Friday it rained on and off and Saturday morning it poured for hours. The mosquito's were horrible, but it probably didn't help that we had last years mosquito spray. Friday morning we ran to a store and bought some new bug spray, which seemed to help. The G.R. River men weren't all that friendly this year, plus they brought their own portable private play area, so we've decided not to go when they are there anymore. We did meet a few new people, so the weekend wasn't a total loss.

Other shit...

I'll be doing my motorcycle skills test next week. Also I crunched some numbers today on our spending within the last year and it looks like by next year we will be broke. I plan on refinancing my mortgage soon so hopefully I can get a lower payment. Our finances kind of worry me but if things do indeed get bad I can always sell my stocks, which I was going to save for retirement and then the timeshare. That will be a sad day when that goes, cuz no more trips to New Orleans once its gone. Anyway back to the grind...

Quick note

Our party went well. Didn't have as many as normal, only about 60-65 people. It was a very nice crowd and I think most had a great time. One of our best friends is a wine consultant, so we had him do a wine tasting.

Unfort. one of the guests got drunk early and totally tried to manipulate and heckle with snarky comments through out the tasting. We were busy hosting the rest of the party in the back yard and didn't find out about it till later. He then took the name tags that we supplied and started making up names for the rest of the guests, some were funny, others were just plain mean spirited and hurtful. He moved to the side walk and started to harrass passersby. I did manage to get Scooby to pull him back in. He then passed out before the fireworks even started. If you happen to read this Steven, I'm sorry to say that your not welcome back to our partys.

Everything else went pretty smoothly except for some other guy yelling over our fence at someone passing by, "Hey! You want your ass fucked", during the fireworks in front of families with children. I mean hello people, this is a neighborhood in which we live. Would you like me to go to your house and do the same thing? I did consider it. LOL My only regret is that I didn't feel I had enough time to chat with some of our friends we only see once of twice year. Love you guys!!

Anyway, the house is almost clean and picked up and we are frantically trying to get everything together to go camping on Thursday. Did I mention its leather/bears in the woods weekend. Should be fun!!

Hope everyone had a great 4th of July!!!
Later....

Crazy life

Things are starting to get crazy here with out fireworks party going on this Saturday. We usually have between 75-100 people so needless to say I'm a bit stressed. Then the weekend after we are planning on going camping. I know I promised a pic of me and my scooter but its gonna have to wait, I'm way too busy. Won't be posting too much for the next couple of weeks. Hope everyone else is out living life also, peace...

Metro Station - Shake It

This song makes me shake shake shake shake a shake it. I guess the lead singer with the tatts is Miley Cyrus's brother Trace Cyrus.

Rain, rain go away

As the saying goes April showers bring May flowers. Well.... there was very little rain in April and we are getting it all now. Normally I like the rain, I feel that its cleansing plus I don't have to water the yard as much. But now that I have a scooter, I'd like to get out on it and get my "break in" miles on it, but all its fuckin doing is raining. Rain is predicted all this week. Last week it was raining and when it wasn't raining it looked as if it was going to rain.

In other news...

I spent this weekend cleaning windows inside and out and basically doing an overall cleaning of the house to prepare for our fireworks party in a couple of weeks. Luckily we got alot accomplished this weekend. We managed to get the living room cleaned out of all the debris and power tools ect. and actually set up as......gasp........a living room. Which means I now have a foyer also, now that the pile of furniture is back in the living room. Salvation Army showed up last Friday and took the furniture that didn't sell it our pathetic yard sale. YAY Thats about it, things are shaping up, the house is looking better than it has in a long time which puts my "neat freak" virgo brain at ease.

A funny thing happened at work this week

Earlier this week the urinal at work was having problems with the water going down. I went and got the plunger and plunged the hell out of it. To my amazement I ended up plunging up the stopper to the sink drain. Funny thing is the sink in this bathroom hasn't had a stopper since I've been here, so it has been in the urinal for several years. Holy shit!.. WTF!

Ignorace in the gay community

As some of you remember Scooby and I had a room mate for a while, little over a year ago. Scooby and I are HIV+, our room mate was/is not. Recently I was conversing with a guy and my partner and I's HIV status came up and the guy replied, "your room mate was also, wasn't he?" I told him he wasn't and he said, "Well I and other people just figured he was since he lived with you guys."

WTF??? Why is it that if you know or live with someone who is HIV+, that people automatically assumes you are HIV+ also. With this kind of ignorant thinking I guess it shouldn't surprise me time and again, that alot guys will immediately quit chatting with me online once they find out I'm HIV+.

Another instance was with our friend who recently had health issues. He had an enzyme surge which caused some temporary paralisis. (Note: he's doing much better and has almost completely recovered) But the gay community automatically labled him as having AIDS, which he doesn't, in fact he's HIV-. Just because he's young and had a temporary health issue he was branded with HIV/AIDS.

The ignorance of these queens spreading these hateful rumours blows my mind. Here are a couple of guild lines to help you protect yourself and be a decent human being.

1.) ALWAYS practice safe sex and treat all sexual partners as if they are HIV+.
2.)Don't spread rumours about people unless that person has confirmed the rumour and says its ok to tell other people.

end of rant....

Not much is new....

Sorry I haven't posted shit lately but nothing is really new. During the week I work and on the weekends we tend to go to the flea market and then have friends over for a bbq on most Sundays. Thats it.... Totally bored and repeticious (is that a word?) Anyway my spending money these days goes to put gas in my car so I can go to work. I cash returnable cans and bottles in for stuff like beer and trail mix. Woo hoo...

I have put 90 miles on my scooter so far and love the shit out of it. I've got another 200 miles to go until I can drive it 45mph, the break it period. Then I'll be able to drive it to work. I had a hitch put on my car today and bought a motorcycle/scooter carrier so I can take it to my skills test. I'm actually not suppose to drive it on my own until I pass the skills test but how the fuck am I suppose to get skills if I can't drive the dam thing. hello...... I plan on taking the test soon, probably by the end of the month.

Anyway thats about it, like I said not much it new.

Ennio Marchetto Paper Quick Change Artist Theater teaser

Lombard St., San Francisco

As my friend Leslie drove down Lombard St. I hung out the sunroof and recorded the drive. The wind noise is kind of annoying so you might want to turn down the sound.

My San Francisco trip

My trip to California was fun. Thursday I went into the city and to hang out. I had lunch at Harvey's on Castro, great ceasar salad btw. Took pictures of the Castro theater and Twin Peaks (the bar), and several at Alamo Square Park.

Friday my friends took me up to Napa and Calistoga. We went to a spa and had volcanic mud baths. My assistant Sergio was a cutie. I soaked in the hot mud for about 25 min. then showered and was taken to the meditation room for a hot towel wrap. After my treatment I went back and swam in their pool for a bit before we took off for lunch. We then headed back and hit a couple of the wineries on the way home.

Saturday we went to Ikea and then to see "Iron Man" which totally rocked! Then Sunday we headed into the city and had excellent Mexican food and then headed to Dolores Park and hung out in the sun. The music was great and we found out before we left that it was the "Gay, Lesbian, Transgender picnic" going on in the park that day. My friends then took me around the city so I could take more pics.

Most of Monday I spent at Steamworks in Berkeley. Tuesday I went back to Steamworks but it was less then eventful so I headed into the city around 3pm for a late lunch. The Deli we tried to go to on Sunday was open this time so I stopped and grabbed some grub and headed back to Dolores Park and sat and ate my lunch.

That was about it. Had a great visit with my friends.

Got back to find out that one of our friends has become paralized while I was gone. He's in his late 20's and just lost complete use of his legs. The Doctors discoved that he had a surge of enzymes in his body that was distroying his muscles. Apparently you usually have around 100 enzymes and his body had like 9,000. They stabilized him and got his enzyme level down, and he is now able to walk with a cane. He still doesn't have any feeling in his feet, and when I called today it sounded as if he was going back in the hospital. To add insult to injury, while he was in the hospital his bf left him........for his exbf. We had him over this weekend and took him to the flea market and tried to get his mind off his troubles. I hope it worked at least a bit, cuz I'm very worried about him.

BearTrapping.com (the truth about)

I've been getting spam from BearTrapping.com forever. Finally yesterday I signed up and found out today that you can't do anything on the site without paying 10 bucks a month. No emails, no nothing. So I politely told them to cancel my profile because I couldn't afford their pay site and this is the response I got:

"You can't afford a lousy $3 a month? what the fuck are you using the internet for adult content for then, loser. Get a fucking job."


WOW what a way to run a website. Even when I do get some extra money I'm sure as hell not going to spend it there. FUCKING ASSHOLES......

Its Morel season

Most people take trips up north to forage in the woods looking for the Morel mushroom. This weekend I found 4 in the backyard. I plucked them, and we took them in and sautee'd them in butter and garlic. OMG!!! They taste just like a juicy delicious steak. YUM!

I probably won't be posting until the end of next week. Wednesday I leave for San Francisco for a week. Friday some friends and I are going to Calistoga and the wine country and have reservations for a volcanic mud bath. Pamper pamper...

Get your motor running

Well my scooter showed up yesterday. I went to the Secretary of States office (DMV in most states) to get license plates and found out that it is considered a motorcycle. Which means I need a special license to drive a motorcycle. So I got the study book and went home. Went back today and took the test and I only missed one question. YAY So now I have a temporary motorcycle learners permit. I can only ride when I'm with someone who has a motorcycle license. God I feel like I'm fucking fifteen again. Now I have to study the skills test and if I pass I'll be able to ride the dam thing. If I fail the test twice then I'll have to take a motorcycle course, which are booked up till fall.

Had I of known that I had to go through all this I'd of just bought a motorcycle. I might eventually anyway. Both Scooby and I have decided to take the motorcycle learners class to refresh our memories on how to ride a motorcycle since we haven't done it since we were in our teens.

I was reading the owners manual today and it says that in order to break it in correctly that I should drive less then 35mph for the first 300 miles, then 45 mph until 500 miles, then 55mph until 1000 miles. Jeez maybe I won't be driving it to work this year since the speed limit is 50 on the road I planned on taking. Dam its gonna take awhile to get that first 300 miles on the dam thing.

In other news: I get my stitches out of my face tomorrow. YAY

Retract that last post

Ok granted I only drink on weekends but it has gotten out of control. Last Saturday evening I fell again but this time wasn't so lucky. I fell and on the way down my face hit the kitchen counter and I spit my cheek open. I then spent the next few hours in the emergency room getting about 5 stitches. I think that I finally had some sense knocked into me. Hopefully

More drinking, a Jockstrap hat, and a new ride...

Today I found my jockstrap under the couch. Then it came back to me.....last Sunday night we partied again, this time with alot of beer and a couple of pints of whisky......and for a while I wore my jock as a hat. At least I wasn't as drunk as the weekend before. I recently was told that four guys carried me into the house that weekend. I think I shocked our exroomies bf by playing John Waters "Desperate Living". I think all people young or old should watch it at least once. lol

Monday I was of course feeling like shit and vowed to quit drinking. HA..... I do really well during the week sustaining from alcohol but now its Friday and I would really like some beer. Note I didn't say "a beer", because I can't just have one. In fact thats my problem, once I start I have a problem stopping until I collapse. But hey its the only affordable fun when your low income folk. A 30 pack of Milwaukees Best is 15.00 and that includes bottle deposit, and it lasts for the entire weekend. Hello I'm Mike and I'm a weekend alcoholic....

Gas has gone up to 3.75 a gal. So this week I bought a Merato 150-TE scooter. It gets 85 mpg and goes 60 mph. So once it arrives and I get it broke in I'm gonna drive it to work on good weather days. Granted I'm going to have to take side roads, but hey I hate the highway anyway, especially now that contruction season is upon us. Its about 20 miles to work, should be interesting. Actually I think it will be cool flying through the country side to work. The scooter is arriving next week. I already bought both Scooby and I helmets since it can carry two people. we will definately be flying around town on it.

Anyway thats it for now, have a good weekend.

Weekend recap

Yesterday we bbq'd. What started out as having a couple of friends over ended up being 10 people. We ended up going through 3 fifths of whisky and a almost a fifth of vodka and about 20 beers. I'm surprised I don't feel all that bad considering I blacked out after the 3rd fifth of whisky arrived. We drank, we ate great food, we drank, we danced, we drank, I fell down repeatedly, or so I am told....
We were asked to host this every weekend but I think my liver would fail after the first month.

In other news I rode my bike down to the park three times last week. It was cloudy this morning so I skipped it today. Hopefully tomorrow.

Reflection

Yesterday and today I got up and went for a bike ride down at the park behind the house. It was great getting out in the nice weather. Not sure if my gauge is right but it read between 75-80 degrees today. I road down past the ducks and geese that were meandering about. Even saw a couple of hot young guys out walking.

Scooby and I have been getting along good for the last couple of days also. He has some good qualities and I have to say that I have never gotten along better with another person in my life. Thats probably why I'm not ready to throw it all away. If he could just get a job and quit his occasional weekday binge drinking things would be perfect. But "perfect" is a fantasy word that doesn't exist in real life. Most of the people I know have relationship problems and if they don't then they're just real good at hiding it, or they're not together enough to have problems.

My friend Thurston has a good saying, "How can I miss you if you won't go away" and its totally true. If your away from your lover now and then I feel it helps the relationship, cuz you miss them. If your around each other constantly then you can get on each others nerves. I'm speaking long term here though, after the newness wears off. Scooby and I have been together for 11 yrs. I remember my mom saying at my parents 50th wedding anniversary, "It's along time to be with the same person" I think thats where I got my sarcastic sense of humor.

Most people don't get me, and I'm ok with that. Scooby on the other hand does get me and I value that. He only works four hours a week and I value those four hours to myself. I work 40 plus hours a week but I don't count that as time apart because I'm working. There's a difference, at least to me when it comes to free time apart and work time apart. That's probably why I'm anticipating my trip to San Francisco next month by myself because I need/deserve a break from my life.

But anyway thats it for now

Rant

I'm kind of irratated today. It started Monday around 3pm when I was getting ready to go to work and one of our unemployed friends stopped by in his process of getting drunk. By the time I got home Scooby was drunk also. Then Tuesday another of our unemployed booze hound friends stopped by and and preceded to get Scooby drunk again.

Is it just me or am I justified to be pissed off. I'm tired of working my ass off while jobless people are getting shitfaced at my house. Only to get home and have to clean up the empty coke cans, shot glasses and dirty ashtrays. When I got home last night I found my laundry/cleaning supply closet had been ransacked. My dirt devil broom that I just bought this last weekend had been jammed back in to the point that the bristled edge was all fucking bent up and now doesn't pick up all that great.

I'm tired of being the bad guy. I think about breaking up with Scooby regularly. If he wasn't so handy and knowledgable about carpentry/electrical and plumbing I'd of broke up with him by now. I do love him, but stop drinking during the week and get a fuckin job!!! It also pisses me off that he doesn't have money to put gas in his car but has it to buy a fucking bottle of whisky.

I've got to start making rules again and I hate that. This is what I've got so far:

No drinking in the house Mon.-Thur.
If you do drink, don't come home, let me know where u are, but don't come home.
If there is drinking in the house or you come home drunk we are done.

Then he will have a choice of either moving to another room with a possiblity of reconciling or I will pay him to leave with no reconciling.

It would be one thing if he worked alot on the house, but I have to nag him to get him to do anything most of the time. I normally just do it by asking him, "So what are you doing today?". He has been working on the house for 10 yrs. I really feel he's dragging his feet because he knows he'll have to get a actual job when he's done.

End of rant....

UUGGHH!!!

Well gas hit 3.55 a gallon this weekend. Needless to say I'm a bit bummed and panicy considering its not even summer yet. I can barely afford to drive to work now. I'm trying to decide how I can cut our expenses. I've already given up eating out other than once a week I'll treat us to Rally's. Just the sandwich though cuz its cheaper to take it home and drink our own coke. I think the next will be to cancel long distance on our landline. Scooby can call his mom in OK from his tracphone if he needs too. Also I'm considering canceling the sat. dish when it comes due next January. :( Being low income is soo fucking much fun.

Weekend update

This weekend was the first weekend we were able to open the windows and air out the house. The temps reached about 70 degrees. It felt to fuckin good to be outside again. I got most of the yard raked and even started a compost bin.

We had friends over Saturday and Sunday for a BBQ and cocktails. Not much else to report....

AWOL cat and a leaking roof

I got home from work last night at 12:30am and no Clyde. I asked Scooby where he was at and he replied, he's around here someplace. In the meantime Kiddo wanted to go out on the back porch which is our summer living room and winter storage room. I let him out there and he started investigating and right before I shut the door I heard a very faint "meow". I called out for Clyde and heard him again but couldn't determine where it was coming from. I thought maybe upstairs in the attic since the attic wall and the porch wall are the same, but when I went upstairs I found the attic door was locked.

Ok so then I went back out on the back porch and heard him again and thought maybe its just another cat outside. So then I searched the house and no Clyde and returned to the back porch. I heard him again and started to look throught the clutter thinking he got trapped in it somewhere. Scooby then starts to help me and says it sounds like he's in the attic. He then tells me he was up there earlier checking out a new roof leak. So we head up there and open the door and sure enough there he was all covered in dirt. Note the picture below that he's mostly white. Scooby didn't see him get past him while he was up there. Poor boy had been up there for hours so the first thing he did was head for the litter box once he got out. I brushed the dirt off of him as best I could and him and the rest will be getting a bath soon as it gets a little warmer.

Sorry for a cat post but I've got nothing else going on. It rained all day yesterday, the roof started leaking in the bathroom downstairs. So now it looks like we got more work to do this spring/summer to get that fixed. yay....

Here's a pic taken today of Clyde and Kiddo taking a nap in there favorite cardboard box.

My babies are online stars

Hey everyone, A picture of my kitties Clyde and Kiddo w/Paula Abdul was posted on "Cute with Chris" today! Here's the original minus Paula. FYI Kiddo isn't eating butter, I had water in the butter dish.

Happy St. Patricks Day!!

Here's a pic of Notre Dame's Mascot, I thought it was fitting for today. Had a few friends over Saturday night and we drank some beers and had a few shots of whisky. Almost didn't make it to the parade yesterday cuz I was extremely hung over from the night before. After the parade we stuffed ourselves with corn beef and cabbage and I did manage to suck down a Bloody Mary. Lots of hotties at the parade, but they only had one bag pipe band which was kind of a disappointment, love to see guys in kilts, especially if they have furry knees. WOOF!!

Liam Finn Second Chance

Sexy bearded Liam Finn being cute and goofy. He's damn Woofy!!

Today was the first day that it was nice enough to be outside with out a coat. I was finally able to clean the outside windows of the Gallery. YAY winter is about over!

Farewell Winter Steele

Well I was planning on posting the last episode of Winter Steele yesterday but the guy that had posted them on YouTube said his computer crashed and they are no more. Dam, but I don't think anyone watched them here anyway so oh well. I loved that little marionette biker chick.

Vacation planning

Well its official, I will be in San Francisco on vacation in mid May. I'll be going out there by myself since Scooby only works 4 hrs. a week and can't afford to go. Actually I'm kind of excited about traveling by myself. Its been along time since I went anywhere on my own, other than work that is.

Scooby is planning on spending a couple of days with my extremely well endowed ex bf while I'm gone, which I'm totally cool with. Now that is an open relationship. lol

Winter Steele Episode Seven